Why do people get married for the wrong reason? Why is it that people get married and thing try and change the person they married? I know I am asking two questions this time, but it bothers me.
I see folks get together then they want to get married, but they say if only he or she changes this or I don't they way he, she does this... But they get married anyway and then try and change what they did not like. Then in most cases when they find out that they could not change that person, they end up a statistic on the divorce rate published every year.
Why do people, women for the most part think they can change a mans behavior? behavior is a learned state, and can only be changed if the person is willing to change it, not because the person wants them to. and in most cases men say why should I change anything about me, you married me as is, why should I change know. When you buy a car new or used do you go back after you have purchased it and say I want a different color of paint, or I want you to remove these mud flaps. If you have tried to do that please let me know how that person looked at you and what was the response.
In short, people.. people. Marry for the right reason, you have to take the good with the bad, if the person was perfect do you think they would have been single when you found them. Don't try and change someone who does not want to be changed. and always, always check your self first before you tell some else what they should or should not be doing.
Why Mike out ---
Monday, June 4, 2007
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